"Tak payah susah-susah laa..awak memang tak boleh buat punya!"

"Tak payah susah-susah laaa...awak memang tak boleh buat punya!" (http://www.negarakumalaysia.blogspot.com)

Saya tertarik dengan hasil nukilan Ahmad A. Talib dalam NST bertarikh 14 December 2003 yang bertajuk "The Story About The Tiny Frogs…..".

There once was a bunch of tiny frogs who arranged a running competition. The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower. A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants. The race began. No one in the crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower. You heard statements such as: “oh, WAY too difficult!! They will NEVER make it to the top” or “Not a chance they will succeed. The tower is too high!”. The tiny frogs began collapsing. One by one. Except for those, who in a fresh tempo, were climbing higher and higher. The crowd continued to yell: “It is too difficult! No one will make it!” More tiny frogs got tired and gave up. But one continued higher and higher and higher. This one wouldn’t give up! At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog who after a big effort was the only one who reached the summit! Then all of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it! A contestant asked the tiny frog how he found the strength to reach the goal? It turned out that the winner was DEAF!

The wisdom of this story is: “Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be negative or pessimistic because they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you – the ones you have in your heart! “Always think of the power words have. Because everything you hear and read will affect your action! Therefore, always be positive! And above all: Be DEAF to the people who tell you that you cannot fulfill your dreams!”

Jika diteliti, memang dalam masyarakat kita ada jenis yang bersikap begini - di tempat kerja, dalam perniagaan mahupun di IPTA/S atau sekolah. Ringkasnya, ada orang kita yang senang tengok orang susah dan susah tengok orang senang!

Sikap "Bystander Effect"

Rakan sekerja, Encik Gopala dan Encik Hashim berkongsi satu lagi sikap negatif orang kita iaitu apa yang dipanggil sebagai "Bystander effect" atau dalam kata mudah saya kata penyakit badi harap (saling mengharap)! Dua rakan saya tadi membawakan kisah-kisah berikut:

1. Di England seorang gadis dirogol di khalayak ramai dan tiada siapa pun yang menolong. Seorang psychologist menyatakan ini adalah kerana "bystander effect" Orang yang melihat itu bukan tidak niat tolong cuma mereka mengharapkan "somebody will do something" akhirnya, "nobody did anything"
2. Pada zaman dahulu ada seorang sultan, dia minta rakyatnya menhadiahkannyasatu cawang madu sempena Hari Keputraan baginda. Setiap orang mesti bubuhmadu tersebut dalam satu tempayan yang amat besar di hadapat istana. Maka ramailah yang datang mebubuh madu dalam tempayan tersebuk. Baginda amat gembira. Tetapi dalam ramai-ramai tu ada seorang hamba yang mana berfikir jika dia seorang bubuh air sejuk dalam tempayan tentu orang tak tahu. Lagi pun tak akan ada apa-apa kesan kerana madu tentu banyak. Maka dengan selamba dia bubuh air sejuk dalam tempayan tersebut. Besoknya pagi-pagi lagi baginda bangun dan pergi ke tempat tempayan hendak melihat madu yang ada dalam tempayan tersebut. Alangkah teperanjat baginda kerana apa yang ada di dalam tempayan tersebut hanya dipenuhi air sejuk. Rupa-rupanya sebilangan besar rakyat baginda berfikiran seperti hamba tadi juga. Moralnya jangan mengharapkan "somebody will do something" akhirnya "nobody did anything."

Jadi, tuan-puan boleh buat kesimpulan sendiri sejauh mana ini benar dalam komuniti kita. Boleh utara contoh di sini kalau ada. Pernah seorang ketua di Majlis Hal Ehwal Islam memberitahu saya yang banyak surau dan masjid "miskin", tak dapat bayar bil bulanan mereka walaupun jumlah jemaah Jumaat sentiasa ramai. Mungkinkah dalam kes ini, orang kita berfikir, "uhhhh....tak apalah aku dok derma pun, padan dengan jemaah hok ramai-ramai ni!"

Cuba ulang balik!

Aduhhhh...hari ni dah 1 Nov 2006! Cepatnya masa berlalu. Hari ni nak kongsi tentang sikap kita yang orang putih kata, "take thing for granted!" Tak semua orang faham macam kita faham. Jadi bila beri penjelasan, kena jelas betul-betul dan sentiasa cek kefahaman orang yang mendengar. Ada ketikanya saya ke warung, minta Tea "0" dapat Tea "O" Beng! Ni boleh juga terjadi di pejabat, apabila kita memberi arahan kepada staf rakan sekerja. Cerita di bawah (diterima melalui email) menarik dan berkaitan untuk dikongsi.

An exhausted looking man dragged himself in to the Doctor's office.

"Doctor, there are dogs all over my neighborhood. They bark all day and all night, and I can't get a wink of sleep."
"I have good news for you," the doctor answered; rummaging through a drawer full of sample medications. "Here are some new sleeping pills that work like a dream. A few of these and your trouble will be over."
"Great," the man answered, "I'll try anything. Let's give it a shot."

A few weeks later, the man returned, looking worse than ever. "Doc, your plan is no good. I'm more tired than before!"

"I don't understand how that could be," said the doctor; shaking his head. "Those are the strongest sleeping pills on the market!"
"That may be true," answered the man wearily. "But, I'm still up all night, chasing those dogs, and, when I finally catch one, it's hard getting him to swallow the pill!!!"

The Fisherman

The Fisherman (http://www.givetogetmarketing.com/motivation.html?fl#articles)
A fisherman observed a snake swimming towards his boat. When the snake reached the boat the fisherman could see that he had a frog in his mouth. Feeling sorry for the frog he reached down and carefully removed the frog from the snake’s mouth and set it free. But then, feeling sorry for the snake he looked around to see what he could give him. He found a bottle of bourbon, poured a capful and gave it to the snake. The snake then swam away. The fisherman was feeling content from his good deeds when about ten minutes later he heard a knocking at the side of the boat. When he looked over the side he saw the snake had returned . . .this time with "two" frogs in his mouth.

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Ini biasa kita temui dalam kehidupan. Kita beri apa yang dikehendaki oleh manusia dan mereka akan datang dan lagi...dan lagi....dan lagi! Kadang-kadang, bawa sekali pula "geng-geng" mereka.